No, "unobnoxious" isn't a word. But it should be.
That being said, let's get to it. This week we are focusing on living in the moment and not living for the weekend or other breaks. One way to live more in the moment is to plan more fun things during the week. This includes date night.
Here's the thing, if you're like many, date night is typically cheat night and is also typically on the weekend.
Wait just a minute, am I about to tell you that by living in the moment, you get more than one cheat night?
Nah. Sorry kid. I'm about to give you some news you may not enjoy reading but I encourage you to read on. Here it is:
You may have to eat healthy on date night.
I know. We have all been out with friends when it was cheat night for us or just a normal night prior to making healthy choices and there was that "one" friend. You know who I'm talking about. The skinny one. Still not sure? THE OBNOXIOUSLY HEALTHY ONE.
Glad we're on the same page now.
Scene: you and your friends arrive at the restaurant and you all are so excited to see each other. I'm talking jumping up and down, being super loud. super excited, you know. Server comes to get your drink order. You've got your favorite cocktail on the tip of your tongue as do all the other girls BUT Sheila quickly says, "ohhhhhhhh.... I'm on this really strict diet so I'll just have a seltzer water with some lime."
That cocktail on the tip of your tongue is stuck a bit now. Oh you're still going to get it out because dammit, Sheila isn't going to ruin your cheat night out with friends. But let's be honest, that was obnoxious Sheila. I mean there's healthy, and there's obnoxious. That killed the mood. You don't want to kill the mood with your friends and you definitely don't want to kill the mood with him. So let's get to my 5 tips on how to not be like Sheila. Let's stay unobnoxious, shall we?
1. Order healthy but leave the story out
This is where Sheila goofed. There are times people will want to know about your diet. A fun night out with friends or your significant other, is NOT one of those times. Order your seltzer water with lime and be done with it. Don't talk about your reasoning for ordering it. No one cares. Seriously. The server most definitely doesn't care. People only explain why they are ordering something when their OBNOXIOUS has taken over. Ever hear a guy explain why he's ordering a beer? "You know, I just love how cold and delicious they are, bring me a Coors."
No, you haven't because it's obnoxious. Stop telling unnecessary, obnoxious stories.
2. Plan ahead of time
Scene: girl is on a date with a guy that hasn't eaten all day. Guy has told her that he is ordering a ribeye, sweet potato, and a cup of chili. Girl has been perusing the menu for the last five minutes mumbling "omg," sighing, and making other noises that signify she's not liking what she's seeing. Guy asks girl what's wrong. Girl says, "oh I'm just trying to find some healthy options and this place doesn't seem to have much of anything."
Oh boy. Guy is hungry and he's excited because he's about to eat when he hasn't been able to all day. Girl just ruined the mood by being, you guessed it, OBNOXIOUS.
Here's what to do when going out to eat and you want to find the healthiest options in the most unobnoxious way: know what your healthiest options are ahead of time. More than likely, you will have known about the date. You will know that it is going to fall on a night that isn't your cheat night. Plan ahead. Most menus are online and you can look ahead of time.
He surprises you? Quickly look for the following items (most places have them):
Don't make others feel bad for you because you are on a diet. You should be proud of the fact that you are making healthy choices without broadcasting it of course, but also without having a "poor me" train that you try to get others to hop on. Saying things like, "oh I wish I could" or "that brownie looks delicious but I can't have it" in your saddest, woe is me voice is not doing anyone any favors. Turn down that dessert with some dignity!
Scene: Server asks if you would like some dessert. You: "no thank you." You get your check, pay, and get out of there.
Easy peasy. Ha ha I know, it's not always easy peasy. Sometimes you really want that brownie. REALLY want that brownie. But, the more you turn it down, the easier it will get. Besides, there's always cheat night.
4. Wait to put your calories in
Don't put your calories in right there at the table during dinner.
Scene: "Honey how was your day?" - says your date, "Hold on, I have to put these calories in so I don't forget." - says you.
OBNOXIOUS. First of all, if you really are going to forget, quickly put a reminder in your phone to do so later that evening. This leads into the last tip.
5. Be present
This goes with the theme of the week. Yes, you are making a conscious effort to be healthy and you are very proud of that as you should be. Enjoy the person you are with and the break in monotony.
Your diet and health goals are not going to be ruined and you can make healthy choices without broadcasting them at inappropriate times. People will want to know about them because the longer you stick with it, the happier and healthier you will be and the more they will want to know how to be like that too.
Be humble about it, be diligent with it and people will start asking you about it.
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